The way I see it...............

 

While I wanted to celebrate a very special birthday yesterday the day was overshadowed by the news that over 50% of the population in the United States have had the right to make decisions over their own body and health taken away.  I will forever remember this day with this news, not that Little Buddy turned 11, but this horrific news.

Pro Choice or Pro Life are interesting terms to me.  I am very much pro life and at the same time I am emphatically, without a doubt, pro choice.  I see a side of this that many of you don't.  A side that is going to grow and grow and create more and more problems for our society.  I don't understand how you can be pro life but believe that assault rifles have a place in our society.  We can protect a bundle of cells with no viability but children can get mowed down with their heads severed in school because it is our right to buy assault rifles.  

I am pro life because I believe that all children should be cared for with Universal Healthcare instead of having services stripped away.  I see the children whose parents can't afford healthcare or even food.  One family I know fed their child carrot water because they could not afford formula, obviously this boy will have developmental and intellectual issues the rest of his life due to malnutrition, he is suffering every day.   There  will be more of this to come, a lot more, yet we are forcing women to have babies that they know they cannot take care of financially, physically, mentally or emotionally.  Babies they can't even feed or afford diapers for.  Our system even wants to reduce school lunches, sometimes the only real food a child gets all day. Can you imagine what will happen to all these babies as they grow up without proper nutrition?

I am pro life and I believe in supporting children, and their mothers, no matter their age, with good mental health services.  Those services are also being cut, everywhere.  Can you imagine a 12 year old being raped by a family member and having to carry a child to term?   Giving birth to her brother?  Her sister? Her niece or nephew?  Trauma based care is so hard to get with the lack of services available, the lack of good mental health professionals that get paid a fraction of their worth.  How is this child going to ever survive this on top of the abuse she has already suffered?  How is her child, who will most assuredly be significantly delayed for the rest of its life, how does this child make it?  Where will the money come from for services to help this little one?

I am pro life but I think having to carry a child to term at the expense of your own physical health is so ridiculous I can barely comprehend it.  How many women are going to leave their children motherless because a bunch of non viable cells or a child that will never live outside her womb are more important then the physical children she already has.  She will leave this earth and leave her children without a mother due to no decision of her own.

I am pro life and I cannot fathom why we are forcing more children into this world with no thought to climate change and the affects climate issues have on our ability to feed these babies with safe foods, clean water and temperatures that they can tolerate.  How can a mother provide for this baby with rents skyrocketing and no childcare benefits?  

In the world where we in the United Sates are so ranked so high as far as infant and mother mortality, how is this situation going to improve that?  It is all going to become much, much worse.  Women will die, their babies will die.  Are you ready for that?

I am pro life but I see the children who have been thrown up against walls so hard their retinas burst.  They are physically abused so bad they sometimes don't even make it, and when they do they are barely living.  Do you not see how this is going to happen more and more frequently because the choice to have a child was not theirs?

Do you think this affects men?  Absolutely not, it is always going to be the mothers responsibility to raise a child.  Will men have to pay support if they have sex until they know a child has not been created?  Frankly, many of them don't support the children they know they have.  Will men have to have vasectomies at the age they can start having children, what is the 10 or 11 to ensure no one gets pregnant?  And only have it reversed when they become responsible adults?  No, it is always, always going to be the woman/girl/child who has to handle the decisions forced on her.

There are over 100,000 children in foster care, almost 120,000 actually, that number is about to skyrocket.  The system we have in place is already overwhelmed.  Are you going to adopt one of these children? Are you pro life enough to turn your world upside down and bring these troubled and often emotionally and/or physically challenged children into your home?  I can talk this way because I did.  I did bring a child into my home who was exposed to drugs and alcohol on top of all the brain damage he suffered due to the decisions of his birth mother.  He is lucky to have found a home.  Are you willing to provide one?  Many of these kids end up in residential facilities or group homes with no real family, or are often abused in the very homes they were placed in for safety, they then drift out of the system with nothing to help them. The cycle will then repeat itself with the next generation. Get ready my friends, because this is all going to get a lot worse for these babies who will grow up with little support.  Where are your prayers then?  Are they helping these poor children?

I am pro life, I am pro choice, but this has just made my job a whole lot harder.  The numbers of trauma based children, physically challenged children and babies, drug exposed kids, and babies exposed to excess alcohol is about to skyrocket.  Will you be willing to pay more taxes to help these kids get the services they need?  I'm not talking a prayer service or a local diaper drive.  How are you going to dedicate your life to helping these children having children, or the mothers who will suffer emotionally, mentally and often physically to have a child that they were not prepared to have.  

I have already dedicated my life to this, what are you going to do to help besides pray and rejoice that women/girls/children have had a fundamental right taken away from them?  A fundamental right that will be cataclysmic to society as a whole and cataclysmic to the very children you are rejoicing that will be born.  Will you be wanting your daughter, granddaughter, niece or little girl next door to have a baby when she has been raped?  Will you tell her to lay back and enjoy it like one politician has said?

What is next?  Imprisoning women who have had a miscarriage?  Not allowing women  access to birth control? 

Let this sink in, an 18 year old has more rights to buy an assault riffle than a woman/girl or child has making choices and decisions about her own body.

It doesn't stop here, and when your particular fundamental right gets taken away remember this day, June 24, 2022.  This is not when it started but this is when it became a reality.